How do you decide how many children to have and how do your resolve when you and your partner disagree?

I don't have the answers to the above question, but I thought I would write about my experience.

I didn't always think I would want nor have children. For most of my teenage years and my twenties, I didn't want to have kids. I loved my husband, career and life. I had heaps of friends and hobbies and I just didn't want children.

For me, one day I woke up and that was it. I wanted to have a baby. My husband and I then talked about it before getting started on trying for a family. My husband had always wanted to have children and before we married we talked about this in great detail. I didn't want to be forced to have children I didn't want, and I didn't want him to miss out on being a Dad. We decided we would be kid free or so I thought....... he since tells me he just knew I would change my mind. I don't know what would have happen if I didn't. Anyway we decided to have a baby and I love being a mum. It's hard, but so rewarding. We eventually had a second child and now this is where things get tricky. I now would love a third, but my husband doesn't. He just thinks things are easier when you have two. He always comments that it can never be good to be outnumbered by the kids. He is right in some ways. When you buy a family ticket it is always two adults and two kids, you can fit easily in the car and so on. And then there's the whole no sleep thing for another couple of years. I get it, but I love watching my kids play together. They fight like all kids but they are very loving to each other. My eldest just loves her baby sister and when we recently took her for a special day on her own. She spent most of the day worried about her little sister missing out.

I now agree with my husband that two children is right for our family. I enjoy that I now have a bit more time and it is getting easier as the kids get older. I know going back to the first year with a baby would be very hard work, but I still occasionally have those moments that I think that three would be great.